Over the past year, Amelia has realized that sometimes people say and do things that aren’t nice.
Unfortunately, our family has experienced to all different kinds of not nice things this year and she is aware of many of them. She’s even experienced not nice things socially. She doesn’t get it and will ask me over and over why someone would do something not nice and asks if they will be going to jail for it.
It’s always hard to find a way to answer these questions. I usually tell her that people have their own insecurities and issues which make them do not nice things. It has nothing to do with her or us and people often get away with doing not nice things. I tell her not to focus on it and to go on with her day and if she can’t do that to focus on Freckles because he is always nice. Then she will ask me a billion other questions until finally she is distracted by something else.
It’s a difficult concept for a four year old to grasp. To be honest, it’s a something that I still have issues comprehending. If someone does something mean to me I want them to know it was wrong but that’s not always possible. People are stuck in their ways and everyone is the hero of their own story.
So maybe just maybe today when Amelia asks me for the 100th time why people do things that aren’t nice, I will be able to take my own advice and move on when someone does something hurtful. It would save me some time and make room for more positive thoughts.