Today A is 4.
I usually write a super emotional letter to Amelia on her birthday. Last year, I wrote a letter that said I would back off and stop taking pictures of her everyday and posting them to my blog.
I kept my word and our relationship is better because of it. I still love writing about parenting just wish I had more time to do it. When Amelia was a baby it was so much easier to write. She took 2 naps a day, played by herself, and didn’t talk. Now we spend lots of time talking and I really enjoy the watching the little lady she is becoming.
Last night, we went to an early screening of Cinderella. The main reason I took her was so she could see the “Frozen Fever” short in the beginning. She loved it and couldn’t believe it was about Anna’s birthday because her birthday was the next day.
She loved the first half of Cinderella but then we had to leave because the characters were too mean and Amelia started crying. I loved the movie though and will be going back without her sometime soon.
On the way home we talked about the movie and she just didn’t understand why the step-mom and step-sisters were so mean. She decided it was an issue of casting and the casting director should have cast different nicer actors.
As I put my blonde curly haired daughter to bed that night and listened to her talk about how people should be nice, she reminded me a bit of Cinderella who was told by her mother to “Have Courage. Be Kind” and followed that advice no matter what kind of meanness was thrown at her.
The past years has been challenging in so many ways. Amelia has witnessed some pretty horrid behavior. It’s made me want to climb in a whole but I never do because she always says something so positive which makes me want to be positive for her.
In NYC parents brag about how their three year old can read already, is the champion of the chess team, or got into some elite kindergarten.
But me, I am proud because my daughter is kind.
So instead of writing a letter, I want to thank her for all the ways she has been kind this year
Thank You Amelia for…
Always wanting to find me a seat on the bus as well and demanding to sit on my lap so I can sit.
Wanting to include everyone.
Taking such good care of your dog.
When I pack a sandwich for you demanding I eat half because I always forget to pack a sandwich for myself.
If someone hurts you, you are still nice to them and want to include them.
Your desire to give everyone some art and thinking it can change them.
Being able to make new friends everywhere you go.
Always wanting to help me with chores.
Making such a big deal about my birthday.
Showing me what kindness is and forcing me to be kind when I felt like I was too broken to be kind.
I hope for many great things to happen to you Amelia, but mostly I hope that you will always stay kind no matter what life throws at you.