Right now we are going to the playground about 4 times a day. The weather is nice and I like to spend as much time outside of our apartment before the temperature drops!
It also gives Amelia the chance to make new friends and most of the time the kids are nice. Last week, a boy pushed Amelia and ran off. He went up to her again and pushed her a second time. I told the boy not to push my daughter again and asked where his parents were. He told me he was with his weekend nanny.
If you aren’t from New York, a weekend nanny is a nanny that watches a kid on the weekend so the full-time nanny can take a break. I have tons of friends who work and love the weekend because they get to see their kids. I hate to generalize but when I meet a kid with a weekend nanny they usually act out a lot because well what else are you going to do when you have parents you never see?
I told the nanny what had happened and she ignored me. I went back to Amelia and she started crying about how the boy didn’t apologize. She wanted to go up to him and demand an apology. When I said no to that she said she wanted to tell his mama he never apologized. After about 5 minutes of crying she was still upset.
I told her that some people are just jerks and that you can’t let it ruin your day. Then I reminded her that we were at the playground on a beautiful day and that she shouldn’t spend the whole time sulking. None of my reasoning make her feel better. The whole situation reminded me of Taylor Swift’s new song “Shake it Off” so I played it for her on my phone.
She instantly understood and stated singing along. Now when something happens that hurts her feeling and we can’t find a resolution I remind her to “shake it off” and she does a little shake dance that makes her feel much better.
Shaking bad feelings off is something I really want to teach Amelia to do. As an adult, I still focus way too much on mean people and negative energy. If I could just “shake it off” I would be so much happier. I wish someone had explained this to me when I was a kid because I think it’s a skill that takes years to learn. Hopefully, Amelia will learn to “shake it off” at a young age!