I admit I am not up on popular culture and have no idea what is cool anymore. The second my daughter was born I stopped watching the news and the only way I know new songs is if I hear them playing at the grocery store. This weekend I watched a re-run of the VMAs while I was on the treadmill jogging. It appears that Chris Brown is having some sort of comeback. Did I miss something?
Whenever I think about Chris Brown all I can think about is the picture of Rihanna after he beat her three years ago. I don’t want to post the picture because it is too disturbing for me to look at again. When I watched the VMAs it was if nothing bad had ever happened. While I do believe people can change the VMAs is directed towards teens. What kind of message does it send to the young women and men of America when someone who beat his girlfriend to a pulp only three years ago receives awards and applause? I don’t think celebrities should be role models. They are human. If Rihanna wants to forgive her abuser and be friends with him that’s her choice. But watching Chris Brown win an award and hug Rihanna before accepting just made me feel uncomfortable. It was as if nothing had ever happened.
On the other hand is there anything Chris Brown could ever do to make us forget the past? I want him to change and hope he has. If he has changed what is he supposed to do with himself? Live in a cave for the rest of his life? He’s a performer so of course he is back doing what he does best.
This post is more of a question. I think violence is horrible and there is never an excuse to hit someone. But if someone is violent I want them to get help and change. People who aren’t famous can go through this change privately without thinking about how their actions affect others. Celebrities on the other hand can’t. A young boy might think it’s ok to hit his girlfriend because hey look at Chris Brown. A young girl might think it’s ok for her boyfriend to hit her because Rihanna forgave Chris Brown. While it is unrealistic to think celebrities can be perfect and only influence children positively there must be some middle ground.
The older my daughter gets the more I feel that our culture is screwed up and it is up to my husband and I to navigate the mess in an attempt to raise her as non screwed up as possible. There’s always going to be some famous person doing something stupid. But I still don’t think Chris Brown should have won an award on a show that is directed towards teens.
Do you think Chris Brown should have won? Is there anything he could do in your eyes to be forgiven?
P.S. The pictures used have nothing to do with this post. I didn’t want to post pictures of Chris Brown because he makes me sick to my stomach. So I posted pictures of cute animals because they make me happy when thinking about unhappy things.