When I ask Princess A to clean up and she does so it is easy to remember to praise her. When she throws things at me or pushes another child it is obvious that I need to step in and do something. When Princess A sits quietly and looks at a book while cuddling Freckles sometimes I am so happy to have peace I don’t say anything.
Yesterday, after the temper tantrum while I was making dinner she sat next to the bookcase calmly reading her board books for 15 whole minutes. I was so exhausted and thankful that she was quiet at first I didn’t say anything. Then I realized how awesome it is that she is able to do anything for a long amount of time at this age, let alone something by herself while I am cooking. So I looked at her and said, “Good job. I am so happy you are my daughter.” Princess A smiled and went back to reading her books.
So starting today I am making a pact with myself that no matter how hard the toddler years get I will remember to not just remark on her behavior when it needs correcting but also tell her how proud I am when her behavior is awesome and doesn’t need correcting.