Yesterday at playgroup, she decided to push a shopping cart around the large room for a full hour and a half. She was so fast and only stopped to put puppies, ponies, or books in her cart. When it was time for a snack she refused to sit and eat. When it was time for a group art project she continued pushing her cart. When it was time for play group to be over she clung to her cart, kicked, screamed, and threw a temper tantrum when I told her to say bye bye to her cart. The teacher told me that she was asserting her independence and to let her have fun with her cart. That’s what I did and I found it both shocking that she was able to do this for so long and hilarious.
I feel like I was blindsided by the terrible twos because I thought I had a gap between baby and bipolar toddler but I was wrong. The main problem is our reaction to her. The Husband and I are comedians so we find the humor in her antics and usually laugh when she is showing us how big she is. Princess A loves to entertain so sometimes she repeats things because she sees us laughing. We are making an effort to stop this but it is hard.
In one of Cesar Milan’s books, he talks about helping author John Grogan of awesome dog book Marley and Me with his new lab. His biggest criticism of him was that because he was a writer he observed his dog’s behaviour as an outsider instead of correcting it. While it did amazing things for John Grogan’s writing career it didn’t help his dog behave. This reminds me of myself and The Husband a little. Sometimes instead of being in the moment and reacting to Princess A’s behaviour as parents, we see the funny and think about the jokes we can write. While this helps us stay calm during her fits I don’t think it is the best for disciplining her in the long run.
So while The Husband and I work on our temper tantrum poker faces, do you have any advice for surviving the terrible twos?